Jan 14, 2013

I Am Tired of Being Fat

Yes, I said the fat word.  To me, fat is more of a statement then a word to hurt people.  However, yesterday being told I need to lose weight from one of my friend's mother's hurt me.  The most hurtful thing was I had literally known the woman less than a day when she told me I would have a lot of medical problems if I didn't start losing weight.

I have known for at least a decade that I was fat.  The medical term for my weight is morbidly obese, but I would just rather call myself fat.

Since New Years Day, I have been making sure to do at least thirty minutes of exercise a day.  I do it in ten minute spurts.  Most of the time, I have been doing at least an hour a day.  I am trying to get to the point where I can exercise continuosly for at least thirty minutes without feeling like I may die.

This week, my family, the new guy and I decided that we would start drinking water.  We had a constant supply of Mt. Dew running through our veins.  I am not completely giving up soda pop, but I am saving it for the weekend and when we go out to dinner.

I hope by the end of this year that I will have lost at least 52 pounds, getting me out of the morbidly obese definition and into the obese.




17 comments:

  1. Wow, I was raised by "if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all". I'm not surprised by what your mom's friend said. We live in a world where people have no respect for anything or anyone, but what she said is bologna. I have known many people in my lifetime who are thin & have tons of medical problems. Being fat doesn't mean unhealthy, just the same as being skinny doesn't mean your healthy. You & your family look beautiful to me & God Bless you for sharing your story. I wish this person could read your post, it might make her wake up & think before she opens her mouth next time. Then again, some people never learn :o)

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  2. It really wasn't any of her business. And, incidentally, they are finding that women with a bit of fat on the hips are healthier than Skinny Minnies. Remember that next time! ((((HUGS))))

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  3. I totally feel you!! I was 180 pounds last year and I had tried every diet product on the shelves. Had very high blood pressure as well. I ran across a product called hcgbluebottle and it changed my life!! Just one little bottle resulted in 30 pounds off :) Now keep in mind that with this product you are on a very strict diet. Takes a whole lot of willpower and strength. I was literally weak from the lack of calories lol. The upside of it was that there was no exercise involved. Three weeks later i was 30 pounds lighter. I am now 130 pounds!! If you have the will to lose the weight it really works!! You can read up on iy at hcgbluebottle.com

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  4. If someone asks me a question, I try to answer honestly. Yesterday after we left the woman's house, I felt fatter and uglier than I have in a long time! I would love to lose a couple of pounds and that woman put me back on the track to lose it. She may be a blessing after all.

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  5. Even the things we know about ourselves hurt coming from other people (especially almost-strangers) - I think what you're doing is great! Good luck! (And I know the pain of cutting back on soda and drinking more water - it does get easier!)

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  6. Thanks Mare! I hope to be in a different weight category by this time next year! With everyone's support, I know I can do it.

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  7. It sounds like that woman was completely rude & tactless. I am sorry her social ignorance hurt your feelings. My best friend is morbidly obese & she is in the process of getting ready for the surgery to help her lose the weight. I am worried to death for her, but I support her in whatever she feels is right for her. I made sure to let her know I love her & think she is beautiful no matter what the numbers on the scale say, I have never once discussed her weight with her in the many years I have known her until she told me her plans...Her body weight is her business.

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  8. You sound like a wonderful friend! I have so many friends who love me just how I am. My mother-in-law had a procedure to lose weight and has done wonderfully. I have always said if my weight starts causing health problems, I will have to explore that possibility. I have to remember there are so many more wonderful people than mean people in this world.

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  9. I am sorry about that woman's lack of tact. As someone who used to weigh 331 lbs (I had gastric bypass surgery in late 2009, and have since gotten down to, and am steadily maintaining, a weight of 158 lbs), I was always amused when people would tell me I was fat: as if they were breaking news to me that I was not already aware of.

    Small steps and small changes can gradually lead to BIG changes. For me, watching and limiting fat grams enabled me to lose 47 lbs before I had surgery. Cutting out the "bad" things, or severely restricting them, as well as incorporating just a bit of exercise, and perhaps swapping full-fat for low-fat, fried for baked, etc., can lead to consistent weight loss, even if it's just a couple of pounds a week.

    I wish you the best of luck in your endeavor. :) Are you signed up for My Fitness Pal? It's a great way to stay accountable, plus keep track of your progress! Also, you can expect to gain anywhere from 2 to 5 lbs right before your period, so if the scale suddenly goes up by a few pounds, don't freak out.

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  10. Jenn, thank you for your comment. I knew what she was saying was the truth, as I look in the mirror every day, but it always stuns me when an almost complete stranger points it out :)

    Thank you for the tips. I know I will lose weight by moving and restricting pop, but I need to learn how to cook healthy foods.

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  11. Things like that make me so mad that it really isn't funny! Who in their right mind things it is okay to go up to someone and point that out (I know anyone who is fat knows it before they are told). What she should have said was, "Hey, make yourself comfortable you sexy thing you!" But, I guess it isn't popular calling a woman sexy if you are a woman.



    It looks as if you have a lot of support! You are making some really healthy decisions and it will pay off if you stick with it. Weight loss made me angry, hungry, moody, etc in the first few weeks, and now it is just making me impatient as the weight isn't coming off like I can put it on.


    I hope that you are able to get to the skinnier you. I hurt for you knowing that someone hurt you like that. Too bad punching stupid people isn't legal!

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  12. The New Guy, My Husband and My Son all decided that we won't be going back there until we are all at the point where we can ask her when she is going to lose weight. It made me uncomfortable, hurt my feelings a little, but at the same time, it made me want to do something.

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  13. I've had people say stupid things to me too...makes you wonder how they could have missed the manners dept., doesn't it? Good luck w/your goals, and I just read the post about you guys helping a young fella out, and I love that you're not bitter, but have embraced it as a good thing for everyone. Kudos!

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  14. Rosey, I had been warned about this woman from her son, but I didn't think it would be as bad as it was! I know that I have said a lot of stupid stuff in my life, so this has taught me to watch my tongue better.

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  15. I think we all know that it was me being called a cream puff that led to my weight loss. I love the person dearly that did it, and she didn't mean any harm. We were playing a game and the question was to describe the person that was most like a cream puff... she took the question differently than others (she was 8) and shared her interpretation and picked me. Those things can change your life, and you can make it change you for better or worse, I'm glad I chose the better and I know you will be too. Needless to say, I would have liked to tell your friend's mom how it is!

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  16. I think there is a point in everyone's life where they hear something, know it is rtrue, and need to change. I am always sorry when someone's feelings get hurt, but am happy that sometimes something good can come out of it.

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