Aug 31, 2011

"Why do you Love Me?"

A great, loving smile
My son and I have played a game since I can remember.  It starts with me telling M that I love him.  He then tells me he loves me more.  It keeps going and each time we add just how much we love each other.  There isn't a day that goes by that we don't share our declaration of love.

Two nights ago, I told him I love him.  He asked, "Why do you love me?".

He needed my to validate my love.  I told him the reasons I love him.  He is a nice child, who loves other people, has a great sense of humor, and that he is my son.  He then asked, "Would you still love me if I weren't your son?".

The little guy sure can make me think sometimes.  I told him that I am sure that I would still like him.  After all, he is a great kid.  He then explained that if I weren't his Mom, he wouldn't love me because most likely he wouldn't know me.  He sure did bring me back down to earth.

It made me think about why I love people.  I love everyone I am related to.  I love my friends.  I have never got to know strangers enough to love them.  How many strangers do we know that are probably the kindest people in the world.  We just don't take the time to get to know them.

I think it is so important to tell your children everyday how much you love them.  If you don't have children, tell someone you love every day how much you love them.  As children get older, they aren't the cuddly people that will run up to you and kiss you.  As they get older, they need direction and sometimes discipline.  Those are the days that I am sure to let my son know that I love him.  When he says something like, "Yeah, sure you do" I explain that if I didn't love and care about him, I wouldn't care enough to discipline him.  I would probably either ignore the behavior completely or do something that people do that just want to control their child without the love or concern.

If your child ever asks why you love them, think about what their great characteristics are.  They really want to know why anyone would love them.

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