Oct 27, 2010

Being morbidly obese in today's world.

Well, I just got done reading perhaps the most hateful blog post I have ever read here:
http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/dating-blog/overweight-couples-on-television and I am having another rough night of sleep.

I am morbidly obese.  I am 35, 5'6" and weigh about 280 lbs.   However, I still feel like I should be able to walk around without having people say rude things to me.  I get mooed at.  Mooing is probably the thing that hurts my feelings a lot.  I also hate it when a car full of people honk just to get my attention so they can make fun of me.

I didn't start out planning on being obese.  It happened a little at a time.  When I was in college I was 198.  When I met my husband, I was 222.  When I delivered my son I was 254.  I was diagnosed with a lazy thyroid.  That means sometimes it works fine, and sometimes it doesn't.  If I were to take the synthroid, my doctor says I would lose 10% of my body weight, which would take me down to 254... two pounds above my post-baby weight. Factor in PCOS (Poly-cystic ovary snydrome)... who knows how that plays in my weight gain, but apparently it does.  My two sisters also have it.  One sister runs marathons and battles her weight that way.  I admit, I don't exercise like I should.  I indulge in ice cream and candy bars.  When I get upset, I don't go to the gym like my sister, I eat.  I eat A LOT!  I know I need to change the way I handle my problems.  I need to show my 11 year old son the importance of exercise.   I have successfully kept 17 pounds off for 8 years.  I realize it isn't a lot of weight, but at least it is 17 more pounds I don't need to lose.

How come is it alright for Ms. Maura Kelly to write such hurtful stuff about her feelings on the morbidly obese?  I can only speak for myself, but as far as medical bills, doctors do more tests on obese people.  I know my last doctor had me in his office every three months for blood tests and even did a stress test on me.  My blood pressure was always normal, so was my sugar level, yet he kept repeating the tests.  I finally switched doctors.  Perhaps that is why the medical bills are so high because doctors cannot believe you can be morbidly obese, yet officially healthy.  Try running blood tests like that on someone who is within normal BMI limits and see what an insurance company would do.

I have a great family.  My mother has never been overweight.  She is beautiful and young looking.  My father and I weigh about the same... yes, what daughter wants to say that?  Anyway, I have two sisters and three brothers.  All healthy.  I am the biggest of my siblings, including my brothers.  I have a wonderful husband and son.  I am fortunate that I found a good looking man who loves me and tells me I am beautiful.  I can tell you that I don't disgust my husband physically.

I guess I want to tell any other "big person" that you aren't the only big person in the world.  We are everywhere.  I am here if you need a listening ear.


  1. Thanks for stopping by my blog and leaving such a lovely comment. Boy, talk about heartfelt, your post really moved me. I haven't read the blog you refer to in your article but I don't know if I want to. We live in a society where we feel like we can say anything we want just because we feel like it. We need to get to a point where we once again consider the feelings of others as much as our own. I guess all of us who are parents need to pass the Golden Rule on to our children.

  2. Wow, just wow. I can't believe MC even allowed that to be published. I don't even know what to say, to be honest. One thing I do have to say though, is to remember that this "writer" doesn't know a thing about you. I'm sure you are a wonderful person, and it should in no way, make you rethink yourself. I'm even larger than you, same age though:). I've been losing weight the last 4 months, because I do have health problems from the weight. So, it'd be great to lose for health reasons, but not because people "think" we are somehow less of a person because of our weight. Shame on her.

  3. I was watching The Talk and heard about the article. I went and read it and her apology, but even after all that I was still shocked that she knew she was being rude and hurtful by even asking if she was being an insensitive jerk. If she herself has weight issues and wanted to be skinny then why would she even say something about someone else? I hope that she stops belittling people because I read through the comments and this wasn't the first time she has talked about overweight people the way she did.

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  5. Sorry, I had a computer glitch in my earlier post. I'm sorry that people make those comments. Hang in there and remember that you have a personality and intelligence. The people who make those cruel comments don't. I'm sure that their friendships are superficial. Getting older is going to suck for those people.